Talking dating games
Will you hang out a few more times until one of you cools off and ends it?
A major factor which adds to the existent stress and confusion during this period is game-playing.
Oh, if I could only count the number of times I’ve heard clients recount stories about the annoying games men and women play in dating.
Grab your cup of coffee or glass of wine, ladies and gentlemen, because we’re about to get into it!
You feel frustrated because you’ve been strung along and left without plans at the last minute.
What to do instead: Know which kind of person you are when it comes to making plans.
In the limbo stage of dating, daters often try to figure out whether the other person is casually dating or getting intimate with someone else.
To get this information, daters stake out the other person’s social media accounts as if they’re conducting a SWAT expedition.
If you want to hang out this weekend, we can either agree to see each other next Saturday now, or you can let me know by Wednesday or Thursday when you can get together.” If you don’t hear anything by the time frame you gave, .If you’re easygoing, you probably don’t need to have plans set in stone.But if you’re more of an organized planner who likes to have dates set in advance, tell your date the truth outright – and don’t apologize for who you are!The best rule to remember about dating limbo is to always expect that your date is also talking to someone else at the same time – until you discuss it and agree to make the relationship monogamous. Seth is a licensed clinical psychologist, author, Psychology Today blogger, and TV guest expert.He practices in Los Angeles and treats a wide range of issues and disorders and specializes in relationships, parenting, and addiction.