Shes dating a married woman
Personally, I think most if not all married people know on some level if a spouse is cheating, but that’s just my belief.Anyway, the married man like his supposed competition is afraid of a deeper intimacy as well. His willingness to live in a limited marital relationship thinly disguises this fear of deeper love and intimacy.The question is whether or not the married man will fix this intimacy issue with this wife.
Usually at the beginning of such an arrangement, when the triangle is young so to speak, the ‘other man’ usually tells himself he likes this arrangement because he doesn’t have to make a commitment.Instead defensive stuff happens like distancing from each other or finding another lover to make up for what is not happening in the marriage.The problem is you can’t get a piece of what you need from one person and another piece from someone else and expect to have a stable and satisfying love-life. What you get instead is fragmentation, conflict, and limited intimacy.Fundamentally, they are unstable, like three legs on a table.Something always goes wrong, or at least it should, because triangles usually end up hurting people more than anything else.